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Wednesday for Women…

January 18, 2012 Leave a comment

Wednesday for Women….


Competitive Edge – How to get ahead

January 16, 2012 Leave a comment

Competitive Edge – How to get ahead!

I see this on the field, floor, mat, at work….  Everyone looks to be able to win and to get a head of the other guy. made me stop and think for a little so I could have a better understanding of what it took to really win and to have the upper-hand and to get in front of my peers.

Things observed – People going from website to website so they could advance their careers.  Meeting with top coaches so their child could have the best training from the best coach so they could win in life.  Peers telling each other if you pat my back I will pat yours.   This defies everything that means to be a great leader and to be the absolute best.   Yeah there are plenty of people that have been successful being this way.  However, the truly great ones have not been this way.   It was what was in them that made them great. What they did with what they had inside that made them amazing.

What are the impacts to the behavior that was observed – A great deal of people not knowing how to replicate their success.  Thus, creating a rollercoaster effect of emotions.   When they were at the top of their game they were on top of the world.  When they weren’t they felt like crap about themselves and made life around those around them pretty dag-gum miserable… And they always had someone that they felt owed them something.

So, I asked – how do I get that “competitive edge”?

When you ask – you receive.  Like a bolt of lightning I came across a passage in a book that a good friend said that I should read.   When you keep score you place yourself in a position where you feel that you are better than the next person.  You expect to win.  So when you don’t you are devastated.   Look at all the winners out there… the athletes that give it their all.  They Train like mad dogs! The game is a measuring stick of the work that they put in prior to the game.   Game time is not game time it is a let’s see how you measure.  But how are they looking at it… they are looking at it with someone else’s eyes.   They are missing the secret ingredient and as such they will continue to move this way because they are not looking at within.

So how do you get that competitive edge…  You stop looking at the score board and seeing if you are better than the other person and you start looking at the score board as a means of what do you have to work on to improve you!  Thank the other person for showing something about yourself so you can improve.  Thank them for challenging you and letting you have the opportunity to improve.

When you are winning the game you are the student that is a little more ahead than the other student.  Take note of what you did well so you can teach others on what you did to improve so you all can get to the next level.  This pushes real competition and sportsmanship.

So how do you get that competitive edge –  You start within and focus on what’s inside.  You practice like a mad man.  When you are competing you are looking back at the work you did to get there and that will be a gauge that allows you to know if what you did needs more or less…   You thank those that challenged you to be better than what you are and you teach those that need to know what they can do to improve their game.

It’s not a matter of if you are better than the next guy.  It’s a matter of if you are the best person that you can be.  It’s what’s inside you! It’s your drive, it’s your passion, it’s your desire to go to game time and be the best that you can be.

Your Secret weapon in your success…

January 10, 2012 Leave a comment

“There are a lot of different ways that you can become successful.   It really all depends on what you want out of life.  You can work hard all of your life and not be any further ahead then you were when you started out….  but if you really want to be successful.  You have to give of yourself.”

Had this conversation with a friend a couple of days ago and while I heard what he was saying I didn’t really hear what he was saying.  I say that it was a couple of days ago when in actuality it was more like a few years ago.   It is now that I am starting to realize that what he said to me several years ago was and is very true.  I spent the last several years trying to find a way to apply it.   But in reality I never even started.   Because in order to apply this I have to do something that not to many people are willing to do.  Die to self.  Put other people’s interest ahead of my own.  See them get ahead first and you will have your interest taken care of.

I guess that after several years and I finally understand that the best way to get ahead in life…  Is just to do the things that come naturally to us.   Be a friend, husband, father, wife, mother, daughter, brother, son…

Opening up my ears is not just listening.  It is opening up my heart to really take into account what another person is not just feeling but what makes them tick.  The moral of the story is this… you want to be successful.   Go help someone become successful in the thing that they want to be successful in first.   When that happens you begin to add a value that no amount of money can ever begin to compare to…

I do not know who was in need of this today… but I know that someone out there will read this and they will know.  That there search for success has always been there.   Look at all the friends that consider you a friend because you have always been there for them.   They will always have your back…. You have always had theirs and you have always done things for them without question.   You already have your secret weapon for success.   Go out and do more of it with more people…


When looking for that Job…. It should match up with what the recruiters are looking for too.

When looking for that Job….  It should match up with what the recruiters are looking for too.

Often times when we do resumes and make applications for jobs we fall short in the getting what we want out there.  It can be missed by some of the top recruiters… So flip it. Know what it is that they are looking for.  This is why linked in is such a great tool and social media should be part of the process…

Top recruiters are looking with a definite purpose – they do not have the time to go word for word.  If the person does not appear like they are going to fit then more than likely they are not going to fit… So what are the looking for….

Recent article discusses on how the resume should be read.  Seasoned Recruiters spend approximately 30 seconds reading the Resume. These are the things that Recruiters are looking for (read full article here)

Locality – Does the person live by the place the job is at?

Appearance – First impressions are just as important here as they are in person.  It does not mean that it has to over the top with styles and design.  They are looking to see if you are genuine, are you professional

What is your education level – If you took the time to invest in yourself they will think that you take your career serious… so accreditation’s, certificates, awards are important as well.  There is more to personal investment to your career than just your level of education.

What you did lately is not as important as the title held – They want to know what you did on a day to day basis.

What is the “Big” Picture – It’s not just about what you are currently doing as much as the skills you bring to the table.  Chronological order is not always the best route to take – what is your skill set.

If you find this interesting here I ask that you visit my blog where you can receive some linked in strategies to spruce up your linked in profile and help improve your chances.

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